FORGIVE & FORGET

Sometimes, people tend to underestimate our potential due to our age. As the saying goes, size doesn’t matter. Thus, it works similar with age too. Off course, we as the youngsters have to pay our respects to the elders especially our parents, aunts, uncles and teachers as well. However, elders indeed do mistakes too. It doesn’t mean that we, as youngsters always be the one who should be blamed on due to our lack of experiences compared to the elders.


One day, during class my lecturer hit my friend’s head unexpectedly. I sit beside her but when the accident was happened, I was trying to focus on my reading. I thought that the lecturer only hit her on the shoulder and I thought it was okay because the lecturer was actually wanted to make her regain consciousness from her ‘sleeping habit’ during classes. She seemed to back herself up but I thought that it was quite impolite because she talked like that to the senior lecturer whose her age was nearly half a decade.

After class, we had a tete-a-tete on the way back to female hostel.

“Ainna, do you think that I’m wrong?”
“What are you trying to say?”
“She hit my head. I feel so ashamed with all our classmates.”
“What, she hit your head!”
“Yeah. I’m not sleepy at all. I just feeling a little bit of tiredness.”
“Sorry, I thought that she only hit your shoulder. Me, myself will piss off if anyone hit my head. Head is the most sensitive part you know..bla bla..but what can we do? I hope you just can forgive her because she is older than our mum, though. No one is perfect. ”

Elders have to show good morale to the youngsters because the youngsters will absorb their behavior. They also have to be friendly but at the same time maintain their respectability.


I still remember a true story about a girl and her big-headed-woman-who-love-to-belittle-everyone neighbor. The woman used to say negative things on the girl’s mum. The girl’s hatred towards the woman grew as the time passes by. When the woman gets older, she eventually repents and seeks forgiveness from the girl’s mum. Her kind hearted mum does forgive her. Nevertheless, the girl who is now a young lady reluctant to forget what has the woman did to her family. It really needs such an elephantine effort to just erase the black memory that the woman had smashed in her life. One Friday night, the young lady watched a very heart-rending Korean movie entitled A Moment to Remember. One phrase from the movie that really struck to her rigid heart is ‘When you forgive someone, it’s mean that there is another empty space in your heart to love and be loved by someone who has made the door of your heart closed before.’ At the end of the story, the young lady goes to her neighbor’s home and forgives her. She really learns that at that moment, the most important things to do are living and loving.


Well, it is really though indeed to forgive someone. However, when you are successfully forgiving someone, you can actually feel what love is already about. Love is the most amazing gift by Allah to who is always prioritizes the love towards Him.